GURUKULA NIGHTMARE: ISKCON'S LEGACY OF CHILD ABUSE

“All That is Necessary for Evil to Triumph is for Good Men to Do Nothing.”

Attributed to Edmund Burke.

Readers might be familiar with the argument that the abuse of children at the ISKCON gurukulas in the 1970’s and 1980’s was due to rogue elements that infiltrated the group and that it had nothing to do with its philosophy and practices.[1]

This view is entirely mistaken. In fact, the cult's founder-guru, A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada, firmly and repeatedly stated his beliefs about the innate inferiority of women and the need for the parents marry their pre-pubescent daughters to much older men in order to contain the "lust" of the little girls. He also instituted the practice of arranging marriages between his disciples--often virtual strangers--for the purpose of opening new temples. If he believed that his preaching interests justified it, he would just as callously agree or encourage the husband to abandon his wife and children by entering into the "renounced order" called sannyasa, which functioned as a kind of "spiritual divorce. 

The children born of these loveless marriages were sent to the infamous gurukula schools  (those in Moundsville, West Virginia, Los Angeles, and Dallas, were the most infamous) by age five. In these hellholes these innocents endured harrowing sexual abuse and mental torture while their parents hawked their guru's books to the unsuspecting public. 

STARVING GURUKULA INMATES

It is no small wonder that to date at least 25 of these children have committed suicide as youths: they never had a family, what to speak of any kind of a childhood. No love, no mother, no father, no home of any kind, and a rotten so-called education at the hands of incompetent, violent child molesters and other misfits. Based on the evidence in the guru's own words and writings, there can be no doubt that his views are the primary source of the child abuse that plagued the schools. This might come as a shock to many affiliated with the Hare Krishna sect either as donors or devotees, but the facts speak for themselves.

The best place to start is with a candid look into the personal life of the guru, beginning with his own account of his arranged marriage at age 22 to an eleven year-old girl. What follows are fully documented excerpts from his lectures and recorded conversations. Syamasundara, Tamal Krsna, and Hrdayananda were all early disciples of the swami. My comments are interspersed as necessary.

Formerly marriage, at least in India, at least up to our time, the marriage was taking place not on the liking of the boy and the girl. No. It was decided by the parents. So... Just like I was also married man. I was married when I was a student, and I did not know what will be the... But the parents arranged.

Lecture on Srimad-Bhagavatam 1.15.46, Los Angeles, December 24, 1973

Syamasundara: Children should be allowed to have sex life at fourteen years old.
Prabhupada: Yes. That is psychological. They develop... Sex life, sex urge is there as soon as twelve years, thirteen years old, especially women. So therefore early marriage was sanctioned in India. Early marriage. Boy fifteen years, sixteen years, and girl twelve years. Not twelve years, ten years. I was married, my wife was eleven years. I was 22 years. She did not know what is sex, eleven years' girl. Because Indian girls, they have no such opportunity of mixing with others. But after the first menstruation, the husband is ready. This is the system, Indian system.
Syamasundara: So they are not spoiled.
Prabhupada: No. And the psychology is the girl, after first menstruation, she enjoys sex life with a boy, she will never forget that boy. Her love for that boy is fixed up for good. This is woman's psychology. And she is allowed to have many, oh, she will never be chaste woman. These are the psychology. So these rascals, Westerners, they do not know and they are becoming philosopher, scientist, and politician, and spoiling the whole world. They can be saved only by this Krsna consciousness movement. There is no other way.

Room Conversation, London, August 15, 1971.

First of all, why did “Prabhupada,” believe himself an expert in “woman’s psychology”? All he is doing here is repeating the woman-hating trash that men throughout history have used to excuse their abuse of under-age girls. What is more, why did his American and European disciples just sit there and lap up this nonsense without speaking up and stating the obvious? It is one thing to respect the elderly, but altogether another to idly sit by and sacrifice your values and commonsense in accepting the views of a person who is clearly and openly advocating the sexual exploitation of children!

• Child marriage is child abuse, no matter where and when it has been or is practiced. 
• Every sane and moral man or woman must agree that the proper mate for an adult is another adult. Nor can cultural or historical precedents excuse the practice: a man who engages in sexual intercourse with a child is engaging in criminal activity because no child can give informed consent. 
• Numerous excuses for exploiting children sexually under the guise of promoting chastity and so forth are often proffered, usually by groups that otherwise appear to be models of religious piety. These claims are hypocrisy in one of its most evil forms.
•  Indeed, the practice of marrying off girls before puberty exposes these so-called marital relationships as pedophilia in its pure form—the sexual exploitation of a little girl by a man who should view her as he would his own daughter and save his sexual urges for a grown woman.

Another excuse for abusing a girl when she starts to menstruate is that her first period makes her a sexually mature woman, a patently ridiculous idea since it is self-evident that puberty is a part of childhood and that the developing child is still a child, male or female. Similarly, the swami’s idea that a girl falls in love with any man who happens to rob her of her virginity would be laughable if it were not an obvious excuse for rape. 

It is worth repeating that all people, regardless of culture or circumstances, own their own bodies and have a right to refuse anyone who wants to use them sexually. In the case of children, who should be protected by their parents and every adult with whom they come in contact, there is an absolute prohibition in all developed countries (and among rational people everywhere) against using them for sexual purposes. The continuing sexual abuse of minors by rapacious adults under the guise of “marriage” is a harrowing crime against humanity that should be stomped out wherever it is practiced.

  

Formerly, when I was married, my wife was eleven years old. So (laughing) an eleven years old girl and I was at the same time twenty-one, twenty-two. One day I captured her hand. She began to cry. A little girl, you see? 

Morning Walk, Bombay, April 12, 1974.

It is obvious that the swami, then known as Abhay Charan De, was fully aware that he was “marrying” a little girl. Furthermore, his relating this incident to his male disciples when he was a sannyasi is disturbing to say the least. Reading it today is like overhearing the conversation of a group of adults who advocate sexual relations with children, which was in fact exactly what occurred in this case. Moreover, this was not the only case where the swami disclosed information about his marital relationship that any man with any sense of decorum would have kept to himself. To call it “inappropriate” is an understatement. However, it is consistent with the kind of emotional stunting that occurs when boys grow to manhood while retaining a view of sexuality consistent with early adolescence. Such men are perpetual 14 year old boys emotionally:  they seem to have retained a young teenager’s view of sexuality, which typically manifests itself in an awkward combination of desire and disgust.

Any parent of a teenage boy or girl knows that teaching your child to respect the opposite sex as a rational being first and as an object of desire a distant second is an essential building block of emotional maturity. Men who fail to mature emotionally are doomed to failure in romance, a sign of which is their deferring to their parents in matters better left to their own guidance. This is the prime reason why children from orthodox religious backgrounds often have the marriages arranged by their parents: they simply never learned the fundamentals of interacting with the opposite sex.

Ideas Have Consequences!

A.C. Bhaktivedanta’s cheerful disclosures are but one instance of the self-serving cruelty at the core of societies that use the cover of religion to perpetuate the abuse of underage girls. However, the psychological and physical toll from these abuses is often more harrowing. Please visit the following websites to learn more:

The misuse of ultrasound technology to abort millions of unwanted female fetuses: “India’s Missing Girls”: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-south-asia-1326430.

Indian girls named “worthless” get new names:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-south-asia-15414796

The dangers of child marriage:

http://www.crin.org/violence/search/closeup.asp?infoID=24330

Coming shortly: how the swami used his experiences as examples that he applied to the lives of his disciples and eventually to their children. . .

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 For an in-depth expose of the events leading to the 2001 lawsuit filed by former gurukula students, all children of devotees: http://www.salon.com/2001/07/02/krishna. For a recent instance of child abuse at an ISKCON-run gurukula, this time in India, see: http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/agra/Iskcon-devotee-held-for-assaulting-kids/articleshow/46246724.cms.

THE HARE KRISHNA "BLISS" ADDICTION

The primary method the founder of the Hare Krishna (ISKCON) movement used to quickly gain disciples in his quest to disseminate Gaudiya (Bengali) Vaishnavism to the West relied on confusing the gullible with promises he could not possibly fulfill. A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami’s arrival in New York in 1966 coincided with the hippie phenomenon and its participants’ experimentation with LSD and other psychotropic drugs and a general disillusionment with what they deemed an excessively restrictive social order. 

Conditions were ripe for taking advantage of the hippies’ flirtation with Eastern mysticism. The guru, A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami, quickly attracted many such followers, as did numerous other Indian gurus. Disgust for materialism of all kinds remained a feature of his new disciples, but the agent of escape from it was shifted from mind-altering drugs to a mind-altering mantra. Specifically, the chanting of the “maha mantra” or Hare Krishna mantra was used as a means to induce dissociation to the point where fantasy and reality became virtually indistinguishable. 

In this guru’s dualistic world view, the material world is an inverted and debased version of the spiritual world and chanting of Lord Krishna’s name offers an instant way to directly contact the Godhead. For initiated and would-be devotees alike, this practice appeared to transport them mentally to a timeless void that the swami filled with a contrived and often ludicrous broth of half-truths, prejudices, and a “Vedic” culture that never existed.

CAUSE AND EFFECT

Freeing oneself from the delusions brought on by years of evading reality is at the root of the struggle drug addicts and other substance abusers face every day. Whether traumatized by abusive parents and/or the destructive effects of growing up in poverty made worse by crime and social indifference, many who turn to drugs and alcohol are simply anesthetizing themselves. Waking them up and shaking them out of their stupefaction requires sustained effort and generous funding, both of which are in short supply in most neighborhoods.  

When all else fails, religion seems to work. In place of substance-fueled delusions, religion supplies an alternate reality that quickly supplies some glimpses of joy at the cost of self-denial and privations. Far from being the end goal of existence, it generally functions as a transitional state that can help a person learn to curb destructive behavior and join society as a productive member.

Unfortunately, as the Hare Krishna (ISKCON) movement and other religious groups with an extreme agenda have shown, it is easy to lead people deeper into an alternate universe by convincing them that self-control is achieved by an ever-increasing withdrawal from worldly distractions. Far from encouraging them to become productive members of society, the initiated disciples of A. C. Bhaktivedanta Swami wasted their lives laboring to sell his books at any and all costs to their personal lives and responsibilities. 

Today the many gurus and GBC members who succeeded their guru after his death in 1977 continue his legacy of attracting seekers of bliss and truth and using the typical cult brew of “instant” bliss and perfection to use them until they either leave or are ejected after questioning ISKCON tactics. Fools that they are, these power-mongers continually betray their real agenda by targeting people with the money or gullible mindset to further their aims. They might engage in any number of "feeding the poor" programs, but these are merely diversionary tactics that underlie their schemes to rob the affluent in order to build ornate and enormous temples

The hippies who joined the Hare Krishna cult in the late 1960's are perfect examples of the tendency of ex-drug addicts to embrace an alternate reality. I personally observed this transformation and my memories in this respect are, after more than 40 years, crystal clear because I--unlike most of the other early initiates of the cult--joined as an innocent 14 year old. So, it was rather fascinating to see the jumping, gyrations, and other antic behavior of devotees who just a few months earlier were stoned out of their minds on LSD, marijuana, and heroin. 

Furthermore, many came from affluent families and had attended or graduated from college.  To say that they were looking for a free ride intellectually seems an understatement: in truth, many of the devotees I knew who seemed to be so interested in spirituality were just looking for a "transcendental high" as an easy, safe, and cheap replacement for their once drug-induced euphoria. The repetitious, formulaic Hare Krishna mantra seemed to serve the purpose since our guru assured us that its words were identical with the deities Radha and Krishna and that chanting them instantly wiped out our bad karma. It seemed as if we were all winners in some kind of spiritual lottery!

Others who were sincere seekers of the truth were initially quite skeptical about the claims of the swami, but their doubts were often mitigated by the typical cult indoctrination process, which, in general, peeled away their rationality by appealing to their baser instincts. In this way, the chanting and dancing reduced an educated, fundamentally decent human being into an irrational, superstitious, saffron-clad caveman. It did not help that very few of these inquisitive souls had ever even bothered to study the Judeo-Christian scriptures they were now so eager to decry. 

Indeed, they thought that following the rules and regulations of ISKCON elevated them into Brahmins who, with the ability to quote a few lines of the Gita and wear tilak, gave them the right to teach the Indian visitors they encountered Gaudiya Vaishnavism as if Hindus by birth and culture know next to nothing about their own religion. Little did they know that, as the says goes, they were trading the frying pan for the fire: ISKCON, so welcoming at first with its love feasts and colorful decorations and deities, soon proved to be a scorpion’s nest of rabid lies, exaggerations, and prejudices.

It was tragic to see how many educated people fell for A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami’s sexist rants (e.g., women are nine times as lustful as man and possess half their brain matter) and his so-called “Vedic” cosmology (including fantasies such as the idea that the sun is nearer to the Earth than the moon and that the Apollo astronauts could have never gone to the moon because it is a “heavenly” planet controlled by the demigod Chandra). Like so many before us, trusting a charismatic person and not examining the basis of our trust dealt a catastrophic blow to our quest for true enlightenment. To say that we were naïve is an understatement: it is one thing to extol a culture that protects cows, but it is altogether another matter to blithely accept an undereducated and manipulative swami’s inane and backward views concerning the fundamentals of science and human relations. 

Still, many of us who have long since left the cult, fondly remember times when our chanting and camaraderie seemed to mitigate some of the doubts and distress we were laboring under. Had we not been living in such profound isolation and ignorance, we would have poked our heads out of the ashram-burrows in which we lived and realized that most of the Eastern (Buddhist and Hindu) gurus active at the time taught their followers to chant various mantras and also insisted that they live in ashrams or communes where, they too were more or less cut off from the outside world. ISKCON was clearly not the only faux-Hindu cult in town. However, our guru was a shrewd businessman and knew that he had a system and that it worked.

The cult’s modus operandi was and is unmistakable: once the interested party arrives at the temple, alienation from Western culture and indoctrination into the swami’s version of Indian/Vaishnava culture begins in earnest. Intellectual inquiry based on fact and objective evidence is actively discouraged: in its place, the new bhakta is offered the swami’s translations of the Bhagavad-Gita, the Bhagavad Purana (“Srimad Bhagavatam”), and the Chaitanya Charitamrita. [i]  No other scriptures, Vedic or otherwise (the swami, by his own admission, never read the Vedas, so there was a good reason for his restrictions) are allowed, what to speak of literature, magazines or newspapers. A little knowledge is certainly a dangerous thing and this was true of both the spiritually curious followers of A.C. Bhaktivedanta  Swami and the guru himself.

Lacking the academic credentials and training necessary to tackle as prodigious a project as translating the Gita, he directed his American disciple Howard Wheeler to create a pastiche of translations from other editions. He clearly had no idea of the notion of intellectual property and so cheerfully plagiarized without giving the matter another thought. What he valued were the “purports” he wrote for all of these texts, which were in fact interpretative commentaries that, lacking advanced knowledge of Sanskrit and the Vedas (at the very least), he simply had no authority to foist on an unsuspecting public in the first place. In this way, the swami tried to repress any scriptural interpretation but his own, as if his followers lacked the intelligence to think for themselves.

However, as new devotees soon learned, the chanting produced a brief euphoria that could not be sustained without spending hours at the practice in a group ("sankirtan") or on one's japa beads. The trance state it produced was a fundamentally dissociative or impaired psychological state that threatened to evaporate outside of a paranoid view of the non-devotee ("karmi") life. This meant that relationships with family were often abruptly terminated (even though many retained some communication, often for the purpose of begging for money). The swami furthered this disassociation process by insisting that the aspiring disciple (”bhakta”) move into a same-sex ashram and renounce connections with the outside world to the extent possible. 

This “us and them” mentality is characteristic of most cults and ISKCON was and is no exception. New devotees found themselves effectively cut off from the outside world.  Those who joined were often so gullible that they gave the cult everything they had and soon found themselves sleeping on the floor (often with vermin crawling about the room) that they shared with strangers. Our guru often reminded us that our so-called austere living was an example of "simple living and high thinking," but, in reality, it was simply a living hell.

Our personal liberties as rational beings were stripped away as a matter of course: the four "regulative principles" treated us like animals in a farm whose choices about diet and sexuality were closely monitored in an effort to make us mere cogs in the wheel of the cult's progress. If the swami said that an idol (or guru) was a god or as good as God and that such and such a Hindu scripture was authoritative, his word was accepted without giving it another thought. The chanting of the Hare Krishna mantra often resembled the group ravings of a group of saffron-robed lunatics and in individual practice on our prayer beads, was usually a rapid, incoherent hiss or mumble. Like all addicts, our “bliss” could only be sustained as long as we could keep the depressing realities of daily life from interfering with our delusions.

When thinking of those days, one memory stands out as a wry, if unintentionally hilarious observation on how matters really stood. While attending the Sunday love feasts back at the storefront temple at 26 Second Avenue, we often noticed a young man who often peered inside at our antics, but usually kept outside. One day we asked him why and he said that he wanted to go inside, but he just couldn't understand why we were jumping up and down yelling, "horrible, horrible." After we stopped laughing hysterically, we told him that we were actually shouting, "Hari Bol" (chant Hari/Vishnu’s name). The young man, who later on became an ISKCON sanyasi, initially had it right: the "bliss" we experienced was manifestly a form of group hysteria and the simplistic philosophy we so naively imbibed was, in one form or another, a snare for the unwary used by opportunistic Indian gurus who were busy seeking out gullible Western youth in order to use (and abuse) them.

This chanting of the “maha mantra” (Hare Krishna mantra) was carried out in parks and on the street and was often accompanied by pamphlet distribution and an invitation to attend a feast on Sunday at the temple. Typically a saffron-clad, shaven-headed youth would earnestly accost a passerby with a copy of a pamphlet and a packaged set of comments about the evils of society and an assurance that the solution was as easy as chanting and eating free vegetarian food. This appeal is the classic half-truth: yes, evils exist in the world, but what relation do they have to the solution you are presenting? It is catnip to lazy, gullible people and it remains as appealing today as it was to the earnest hippies of yesteryear. 

This “book distribution” was nothing more than an organized campaign of harassing the public into buying a publication that most of them promptly threw in the trash. Afterwards, the exhausted devotees would return to the temple, shower, and don Indian attire (saris and dhotis), and then spend the evening chanting and playing hand cymbals while pacing back and forth in front of a collection of idols that typically include a brass or marble Radha and Krishna and the Bengali Vaishnava saint, Chaitanya Mahaprabhu (who is worshipped as a combination of Radha and Krishna), and the animistic Jagannath idols.  

To Indian visitors (who generally found the proceedings as alien to their culture as non-Indians did) the scene must have been ludicrous: the idols were dressed in a manner of Bollywood actors on the set of a cinema reenactment of the Bhagavad Gita or another Indian religious epic. Moreover, the con artists in ISKCON have continued to use a remarkably stable set of brainwashing techniques to the present. For example, back in 1975, a young college student lured into the cult recounted his experience as follows:

You don’t have time to think, to be bored.  . . . It’s like being high, but worse. Chanting is a form of escapism. The more confused the mind is, the easier it is to be manipulated. Everything was so structured: rise at 4 a.m., cold shower, meditate, class, meditate. Everything starts slowly and builds up to a fever pitch—dark, bright lights; music, dancing—it’s very powerful, and you’re confused. You don’t quite know what you’re experiencing. [ii]

We paid a steep price for our “bliss” as the foreign became familiar and reality receded to the background. While there is little doubt that many truth-seekers of the hippie era were infatuated with Eastern mysticism due to their intellectual laziness and desire for instant gratification, what led many to waste their youths in cults was a carefully scripted program that exploited their vulnerabilities and fears. Clearly, there is a high price to be paid for dropping out of society for the best years of one’s life. Our intellectual and cultural lives were virtually nonexistent. Cultural appropriation of all things Hindu seemed to be the rule of the day, as Westerners who had only recently repudiated their own cultural identities adopted what they thought were the attire of both Vedic India and the Krishna loka of Vaishnava tradition, striding about in bindi, saris, and dhotis.

Today blogs and websites maintained by ex-ISKCON members tell the same story with few modifications. The irony of these responses is that they all originate with mantra chanting, a practice that has been used in India for centuries as a means to “awaken the higher potentials of the brain and change the flow of energy in the nervous system.” [iii] (It is also notable that the Rig Veda, very possibly the oldest religious text of the Vedic period, is a collection of various hymns.) The potential of mantra chanting for regulating breathing and other brain functions usually held to be strictly involuntary in nature is a fascinating subject worthy of greater attention and study. It captivated early yoga practitioners in the West, who most often combined it with yogic postures (as in Kundalini Yoga) or used various mantras as meditative aids. However, in virtually all cases, the sacred nature of mantra chanting requires that the atmosphere in which it conducted is as free from distractions as possible and that the syllables are carefully and reverently pronounced.

While other mantra practitioners in the West were instructed to pay attention to breathing patterns as a means to reduce anxiety and stress (“mindfulness”), we instructed to chant while contemplating the deity with all of the rapt adoration one usually associates with an object of unrequited love. Our guru, who held the illicit passion of Krishna, Radha, and the gopis as described in the Chaitanya Charitamrita to be the highest form of Bhakti-Yoga, viewed the chanting of the Maha Mantra as a form of adoration, a direct conduit to the deity, and the Godhead himself in one convenient package. 

In effect, he encouraged a certain “mindlessness” in the emotional excesses of the kirtan, believing them to be self-evident proof that the devotees were indeed possessed by holy ecstasy. (We might have indeed been possessed, but there was nothing holy about it.) In this way, young men and women in the flower of their youth wasted it worshipping idols of brass and marble at the direction of a guru whose edicts were directed to spreading the thinly-veiled eroticism of Gaudiya Vaishnavism under his self-assumed mantle as the only living genuine guru in the line of disciplic succession from the androgynous Bengali saint Chaitanya Mahaprabhu.

CONCLUSION

In so exploiting these gullible, damaged young souls of an alien culture, the swami foisted on them numerous indignities in addition to utterly disregarding their health and mental and emotional wellbeing. For him, his disciples were simply a means to an end. Far from introducing the Gita and Hinduism to the West—an achievement that properly belongs to the genuine saints Sri Ramakrishma Paramhamsa and Sri Vivikenanda—he presented the beliefs of the tiny Gaudiya Vaishnava sect to the West as representative of a non-Hindu “Sanatana Dharma.” He then initiated legions of grossly under-qualified and misinformed Americans and Europeans, gave them new Hindu names ending with “das” or “devi dasi,”and sent them out on the streets of their countries to preach his message. 

Most of these one-time Hare Krishna devotees have long since left the ISKCON movement and tend to look back with bewilderment as to why they joined it in the first place. To help answer that question has been the purpose of this essay.  Keep in mind that the method by which Srila Prabhupada (as we called the swami) used to keep his initiated disciples from learning the truth about his essential beliefs was a practice he brazenly called “gradually revealing the truth.”  
Today the deception he practiced on his disciples has been transferred to the Hindu public (both in India and abroad), as a number of his one-time disciples have assumed the mantle of the guru and have diligently worked to deceive them. They have the audacity to present ISKCON as not only genuinely Hindu, but also claim that its practices and members aspire to the highest standards of religious conduct. None of these claims has a basis in fact, as this and other essays both in this website and my blog (https://harekrishnacultexposed.blogspot.com) endeavor to prove. ISKCON was and is a cult.

Keeping disciples in the dark about the guru’s core beliefs and strictly controlling their contact with the outside is more than enough to qualify the ISKCON sect as a cult, but using our thirst for knowledge and joy to coerce us into to a world of deprivation, personal indignities, and cheating others is diabolical fraud by any definition of the term.

i] Little did we know that, as Howard Wheeler (“Hayagriva Dasa”) recounts in his book, Hare Krishna Explosion,      pp. 210-211 that A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami never translated the Bhagavad Gita; rather, he asked Wheeler to "just copy the verses from some other translation,” adding that “the verses aren’t important.”

ii] Markoutsas, Elaine. “Krishna Converts Who Fled the Cult: Personal Story Krishna Converts Struggle Against the Spell.” Chicago Tribune, August 11, 1975.

 Iii] Bengaluru, Satguru Bodhinatha, et al. “Mantra Yoga,” 36-51. Hinduism Today. 34.1 (Jan.-March 2012).

FAKE MARRIAGES, LIES, AND SADHU-MAKING

SHAM MARRIAGES AND “SPIRITUAL” ADVANCEMENT

Now I will show how A. C. Bhaktivedanta Swami used his personal experience to teach his disciples about his notion of the “Vedic” or traditional Indian view of marriage (this is a direct quotation):

• So I think I have spoken about my own life. You know that I was a married man. So after being married, I did not like my wife. (laughter) . . .So I was preparing for next marriage. . . . So my father, he was a saintly person. So he called me one day and said, "My dear boy, you are trying to marry again. I request you don't do that. You do not like your wife. That is a great fortune for you." (laughter) So I gave up that idea of marrying. Yes. So now I am realizing my father's blessing, yes, that if I would have been too much attached to my wife, then I could not have come to this position. That's a fact. So by ethical point of view, from spiritual point of view, to become too much attached to wife is an impediment for spiritual advancement.

Lecture on Srimad-Bhagavatam 1.3.17, Los Angeles,  22 September,  1972.

This advice from the swami’s father, far from being a “blessing,” condemned his son and daughter-in-law to a loveless cohabitation that could have hardly aided the “spiritual advancement” of either party. Worse, the swami’s open admission that he never liked his wife proved in his own experience that Vedic marriage as he understood it is a farce. As Milton put it, the notion of remaining married under such circumstances, is to “grind in the mill of an undelighted and servile copulation.”[1] The swami’s making an example of his arranged marriage to an 11-year old girl he never even liked (despite her virtuous behavior), speaks volumes about his lack of character in general and of human dignity in particular.

BLAMING THE VICTIMS: LUST AND "THE WEAKER SEX"



You might now ask why ISKCON marriages took place at all if the swami had such negative views of the institution from a religious viewpoint. The next quotation and the one following it will provide an answer:

• But if there is sex desire, how to control it? Women are normally very lusty, more lusty than men, and they are weaker sex, it is difficult for them to make spiritual advancement without the help of husband. For so many reasons, our women must have husband. That's all right, but if once they have got a husband he goes away so quickly, that will not be very much happy for them. Letter to Madhukara, 4 January 1973 .
•  Generally, separation between husband and wife is due to womanly behavior; divorce takes place due to womanly weakness. The best course for a woman is to abide by the orders of her husband

                                                                          Srimad Bhagavatam,  4.4.3 purport

These pronouncements are typical of the unsubstantiated, ignorant drivel that the swami used to justify ISKCON’s barbaric treatment of women. Never at any time did he present one iota of evidence to support this and other blatantly sexist assertions; instead, he used terms such as “normally” and “generally” to give the impression that they are common knowledge. All of these nonsensical claims about the lust and weakness of women are transparent excuses crafted by cowardly men to justify their sexual abuse and battering of females of all ages.

Furthermore, what does a sham marriage to a buffoon so stupid as to believe such nonsense about his would-be wife do to advance her spiritually? I personally witnessed the agony of both partners when the swami performed the arranged “marriage” of two sincere devotees in the first ISKCON temple in New York City back in 1968, all for the purpose of their starting a temple in Boston. The misery and humiliation on their faces was unmistakable. 

As was soon clear, the only reason the swami advocated marriages between his American disciples--most of whom were strangers to each other--was to use them to open new temples. Soon, after it became clear that sanyasis were better suited to this task, he just as easily gave the couples a “spiritual divorce,” leaving a shaven-headed “widow” with one or two white saris toiling in a temple or hoodwinking the public in the street. This fact alone makes his comment about the distress of the wife when her husband “goes away so quickly” so ironic and cruel.

FROM “GRIHASTA” TO “SANNYASI”: ROBOTS FOR KRISHNA

Moreover, A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami did not hesitate to offer the same advice he alleged his father gave to him to a number of his senior disciples to justify their separation from their wives for the express purpose of enhancing his preaching aims and in one case, urging one of his Indian disciples to become a sanyasi like himself. The following is an excerpt from the letter dated 11 May 1972 he sent to the ISKCON guru now known as Gopal Krishna Goswami:

• Your wife has proven turbulent, that is the grace of Krishna. I may inform you in this connection about my family life. Actually, I never liked my wife. I was going to marry another, but my father saved me from the danger and he told me that you do not like your wife, that is the grace of Krishna. So don't be worried about your wife. If she wants to re-marry, let her do so, and you'll be free and I shall give you Sannyas [the renounced order] and you will be preaching freely.

Please note: I was the “wife” the swami is referring to here and at the time I was a few weeks pregnant. It is painful even now—40 years later!—to write about my reaction to reading it: I was devotee since age 14 and had passed my teenage years tending my deities at home (while going to high school) and living for the weekends when I would go to the temple. By all accounts, I was a very sincere and stalwart devotee.  In fact, although I was repulsed by the very sight of Gopal Krishna and actually fled to the protection of my sister at the St. Louis temple, I was flown to Boston to marry him under the mistaken notion that the swami had ordered me to do so.

REPULSIVE PEST GOPAL KRISHNA CIVIL “MARRIAGE” WITH
INNOCENT 17 YEAR OLD MINOR CHILD
 DATED 4 JULY 1970

I remember a powerful chill passing through my body as I read above letter, because I realized that Gopal Krishna had the temerity to write to our guru to defame me, all the while using me to satisfy his lust. However, what cut me most of all was the swami’s casual dismissal of me, without even as much as asking me for my side of the story. For all of my loyalty and courage in his service, I was nothing to him. At the time, I simply had no inkling of how low he regarded women (as I discuss below). Had I known, I would have never wasted a precious moment of my life serving a foreigner who believed women are nine times as lustful as men and half as intelligent.

It is interesting to note that the swami never speaks of love between husbands and wives; instead, he uses the binary terms of “attachment” and “detachment” as if the emotions of family members are as meaningful as the interactions of caged lab animals. How irrational he sounds, despite the claims that his loveless family life resulted in his “complete liberation from worldly attachment.” In truth, a miserable family life simply tends to perpetuate itself: the wife or husband might seek affection elsewhere (as the swami admitted in his own case) and the children often become abusers or violent sociopaths in their grief at their unremitting feelings of loss.

BRAINS AND BIGOTRY: EDUCATION,  ISKCON-STYLE

• To understand Brahman is not the business of tiny brain. Alpha-medhasan. There are two Sanskrit words, alpa-medhasa and sumedhasa. Alpa-medhasa means having little brain substance. Physiologically, within the brain there are brain substance. It is found that the brain substance in man is found up to 64 ounce. They are very highly intellectual persons. And in woman the brain substance is not found more than 34 ounce. You’ll find, therefore, that there is no very great scientist, mathematician, philosopher, among women. You’ll never find because their brain substance cannot go. 

                       Lecture on Bhagavad Gita Hawaii, 3 February, 1975

It is obvious that there is no substance to the swami’s laughable claims about the “little brain substance” of women compared to that of men. His saying that “it is found” or “is not found” when dealing with matters concerning human physiology is an attempt to dupe the gullible into believing that some sort of expert is the source of this manifest rubbish. However, no evidence is offered, simply pronouncements that reflect nothing more than self-serving prejudice. Unfortunately for bigots everywhere, arguments that fail the test of rational analysis are easily defeated by simply pointing out their logical fallacies. In this case, the first is a hare-brained leap of logic: how does the claim that men “64 ounce” of “brain substance” lead to the conclusion that “they are very highly intellectual persons”? This is a patently nonsensical claim, of course. Brain size is always relative to the body weight of the species in question and even then it is no predictor of general intelligence. If this were not the case, the sperm whale, which has the largest brain in the animal kingdom (averaging 7,800 grams to the 1,300-1,400 of a human) would hold the world in thrall and subjugate even the most fanatical saffron-wearing “saints.”

Readers at this point might wonder at the sheer idiocy of anyone in the modern age claiming that “there is not very great scientist, mathematician, philosopher, among women.” It is not unusual, however, for religious fanatics to have their heads so far in the clouds that they forget that they are actually lodged securely in their nether regions. Whenever I hear such evil claims as the swami’s, I feel less sorry for their ignorance than for the tremendous harm these ideas have done to women since time immemorial. It is bittersweet to note that while 57% of college students in the U.S.are women, little girls going to school in Afghanistan risk their lives every day. It is also impossible to ignore the achievements of modern Indian women in every sphere and forget that, as BBC News reported last year, up to eight million girls were selectively destroyed in India in the past decade (using modern ultrasound and abortion) simply because families prefer boys.   

To add insult to injury, A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami also advocated denying the children of his disciples’ arranged “marriages” the opportunity to develop whatever intellect they possessed:

• There is no question of academic education for either boys or girls--simply a little mathematics and being able to read and write well, that's all, no universities.              Letter to Chaya Dasi: 16 Feb. 1972.

It follows that the ISKCON gurukulas where these children were sent at the ages of four or five had no need to employ qualified teachers and, indeed, it soon became apparent that many of these roles were occupied by sexual deviants and child abusers of every description. The parents of these children were allowed to see them once a year during “parents weekend,” otherwise they generally lived separately in the ashrams at or near the temple, spending their days on “sankirtan,” which at the time (and to the present) was nothing more than an organized scheme to dupe the public on the streets and in airports to purchase one of the swami’s books. If that was a barren life for the parents, it was much worse for the children. In essence, they missed their childhoods entirely. 

To get a more comprehensive picture of the abuse these innocents suffered, I refer the reader to the many accounts of abuse contributed by the former gurukula students themselves, most of which came to light when many of them filed a lawsuit in 2001 against the Hare Krishna movement. Typically enough, after spending many millions defending themselves against the lawsuit, the ISKCON movement filed Chapter 11 bankruptcy for the express purpose of avoiding making settlements that would be even remotely decent. Instead, the former students were given meager financial compensation along with a lame apology from the ISKCON GBC (Governing Board Commission). Not one of the perpetrators has ever been arrested.

CHILD ABUSE AND BOOK SCAMS: THE SWAMI’S “VAISHNAVA SOCIETY”

Now I want to address for once and for all the excuses the ISKCON management has proffered to defend their guru against any claims of responsibility for the gurukula abuse. I have already treated the low opinions the swami held of women and his habit of arranging marriages between his disciples for the purpose of spreading his warped version of Vaishnava Hinduism. How these practices led to the degrading treatment of children has always been side-stepped, often by fervent advocates of the swami who allege that the worst of it occurred after his death in 1977. 

An entire industry consisting of accusations and counter-accusations consumes many senior devotees (particularly in India), all of which derives from the notion that the original executors of A.C. Bhaktivedanta both colluded in poisoning him and then took on the mantle of guruship for themselves. There is even a very vocal faction that believes that the new adherents can take initiation from the swami, albeit in spirit. This “ritvik” controversy has continued unabated for years while the now largely Indian public attending and supporting these often extremely lavish temples are ignorant of the policies and history of a cult that in reality is far removed from Hinduism. The following quotation twists the lid off the stinking jar of excuses his followers continue to offer to defend him against the torture so many of the gurukula children endured:

• Any householder devotee who is working full-time (with his wife) as a sankirtana book distributer, of temple managerial duties, artist, cook, etc. shall be provided food, shelter, and other bare minimumnecessities by the temple itself.They should not cook their own meals separate from the temple meals. If they have children, then some minimal allowance may be given according to the number of children. If they want anything extra or over and above what the temple president sees as absolute necessity, then they should work outside—the temple cannot pay for anything beyond the bare necessities.                                     Letter to Kirtiraja Das, Bombay, 12 Jan, 1975                                                             

“Bare necessities” is the key term here: in practice, it meant spicy, ill-prepared food unfit for children, squalor typified by no furniture or even proper bedding—sleeping bags without pillows were the norm—and a regimen of deity worship that began at 4:30 in the morning after a shower so frigid that some gurukula students reported being cut by shards of ice.  The swami’s obsession with selling his books came at a very high price for everyone, but the already fragile marriages and the hapless children they produced suffered worst of all.Readers unfamiliar with the culture of the ISKCON movement A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami developed are probably in shock by now and understandably so. It is important to note that the swami had numerous children in the marriage I have touched upon earlier in this essay and so was undoubtedly aware of the responsibilities of a father and husband. Many of these are financial in nature and others grow from the love and security both parents should naturally provide for each other and their children. However, in his rush to market his published works to the public in the West, A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami used his disciples as little more than robots, insisting that the main business of his sect was “sankirtan,” which meant hitting the streets to dupe the gullible into purchasing a book or pamphlet that was usually promptly tossed in the nearest trash can. 

He wanted absolutely nothing to do with the practical issues arising from families that were ripped apart as easily as they were formed. Extreme poverty ensued, with ISKCON parents forced to use public assistance of various kinds (medical, food assistance, etc.), with much of it subject to confiscation by temple authorities. The children in the few years they spent with their parents (before being shipped off to abuse and privation at the gurukulas in the West and in India), had few if any toys and either lived with their mothers in the brahmacharini ashram or in a shared apartment where two or three families were crammed in unfurnished rooms.

Actions provoke reactions and when the family is used to promote ideas without consideration for the parties involved, the consequences can be severe indeed. A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami, who we affectionately called “Srila Prabhupada,” had an ambitious plan to spread his version of Bengali Vaishnavism and carefully constructed an image of himself as a “pure devotee” whose edicts and beliefs were divine in origin and therefore not subject to challenge of any kind. His ideas about women and the roles they should occupy in the Hare Krishna movement were, as I have amply demonstrated, products of an irrational, dark-age mindset that he persistently tried to present as both Vedic in origin and scientifically valid. In other words, he was an ignorant bigot bent on using his hypnotic chanting and prasadam feasts to lure the inquisitive minds of the West into following a social model that is at root nothing more than an assault on reason and, for believers in the Divine, an insult to the Creator who so obviously endowed both men and women with unparalleled reasoning capabilities. 

What really amazes me is why his male followers—many of whom were college-educated—never confronted him about these and other blatantly absurd claims. That they fell under the spell of the swami’s self-imposed cult of personality is clear and that he inflated their egos by filling their heads with notions about the mental, moral, and physical superiority of men is just as obvious. In the final analysis, however, the passive-aggressive attitudes of the men in ISKCON perpetuated a system of abuse that they knew was rotten at the core.

Today, the ISKCON schools serve a primarily Indian population and therefore most use a standard educational scheme, all the while hiding their preposterous so-called Vedic notion of the universe from the parents of these students. It would be interesting for these sincere Hindus to investigate the cult they are supporting so generously and, when they do so, I guarantee all my readers that they will wonder at the brass statute of the founder of the ISKCON movement on the altar of the temple where they worship and start thinking about shifting their donations to another more worthy cause.

[1] The Doctrine and Discipline of Divorce,” in The Complete Prose Works of John Milton, ed. Ernest Sirluck (New Haven: Yale University Press, 1959), 11:258.
See http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-south-asia-13264301. "India’s Unwanted Girls.” 
For a representative example, see: http://www.rickross.com/reference/krishna/krishna41.html. http://www.iskcontimes.com/brief-history-of-guru-hoax-in-iskcon for a representative discussion.